Friday, August 21, 2009

Love Turning Into Marriage

Hi Bloggers,

Writing on some senstive topic now and am sure should be close to a lot of folks. This blog is not meant to be offensive in any way but just a critical and logical analysis of one of the most celebrated human feelings called "Love"..
The dictionary lists followings meanings of the word:
1. A deep, tender, ineffable
feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.
2. A
feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance.
Now lets start, I have underlined the word that I find most important in the definition of the word - "feeling".
Since we have been child we have always been told to control many of our feelings may it be anger, desire to have something or even affection (remember those times when u had to leave your grandparents post summer vacations). Then the question becomes isn't "love" a feeling which can be controlled?
An article in Time of India some days back had some very interesting interviews about this topic. The psychiatrist interviewed concurred that love is a feeling which originates when one finds someone
who can solve the problems, challenges faced or to put it simply someone who 'fills in the gap.'
Let me take a few examples: I have seen personally very many cases where in the professional or
educational life people get attracted towards eachother because one of them is either intelligent or
higher up in the hierarchy or some material reason. Does this not mean that the same feeling can be
controlled or if somebody who does not have any gaps will not fall in love? Does it justify to put so
much emphasis on the feeling as in movies and all?